The outcomes of self-destructive thinking and self-destructive action are myriad and impossible to fully predict. However, what we do have control over is how we choose to view ourselves, having survived the ordeal.

There are many self-improvement books and lectures that talk about the Ego being the voice of fear and limitation. What they don’t typically talk about is that the Ego is also our self-identity, our sense of self-worth, and who we are as an individual.

Emotional abandonment is leaving our emotional needs unattended, often without acknowledging or addressing it with a response. That can leave us feeling confused, unsettled and unloved for a long time.

Sometimes, it takes a great amount of courage to go through life as a multifaceted human being. Because there are so many facets to you, forming a clear sense of self can be a confusing process.

Many of us struggle with external demands, stress, and busy schedules. We are programmed to believe that we are only valuable if we are constantly producing, achieving, or available for everybody. I’d really like to challenge that belief.

Cutting off bad ties signifies that we are no longer willing to stay in relationships or situations that make us unhappy, no matter what challenges we may face in the future. It is a testament to the determination of wanting more for ourselves.

Knowing we are whole and complete takes us out of the mentality of not being good enough when pursuing self-improvement, and puts us in the mindset of empowerment instead. This way, we are on a journey of discovery rather than a search for something we don’t have.

Perfection also instills fear in us—fear of failure and fear of our personal imperfections. This fear leads us down a dark path where we tend to avoid challenging situations or competitions because failure seems unbearable.

In order to allow love to enter, our heart will have to be open to it. The wider it is open to receive, the greater the love will enter. The chance of heartbreak and disappointment will always be there… Our mind cannot separate us from love, it can only create fear.

As I went about everyday life cool, calm, and collected, my mind was the complete opposite. It was hyper-alert and restless. Like TikTok, it played, replayed, and commented on every scenario and conversation that happened in the past hours, months, and years.

The world we live in seldom encourages authenticity, at least not genuinely, I often feel. We may hear words of empowerment to be authentic, but when we do we are often reprimanded for being too real.

As someone who grew up in Hong Kong during the 80’s and 90’s and has been living in Australia for nearly three decades, I often ponder questions regarding my identity: Who am I? Chinese, British overseas citizen, or Australian?

The subject of forgiveness comes up often in conversation, but I find that when it comes to the details of what that truly entails, what that process feels like is not actually talked about.

Happiness is one thing we cannot get enough of. We want happiness in all magnitudes and in all areas of our lives.

Feeling more comfortable in the bedroom starts long before you are in bed with someone. Whether you are single and mingling or in a long-term relationship, we all want to embody confidence in the bedroom.

While I am glad I have healers to look up to, healing inherently is an individualized journey. My healing will not look like anyone else’s, but I often fail to miss this important distinction.

When difficult people appear in our lives continuously who make our blood boil, skin crawl, and tears gush, we can find ourselves in desperate moments when we run out of all other ideas throwing up our hands and asking: “Why?” and “What do I do?”

We naturally want to be of service to those in need. We love the opportunity to better someone’s life or experience. So why is it that when it’s our turn to ask for help we fear and hesitate?

Are you blessed with a constant sense of feeling loved and supported no matter what, or have you always wondered what that’s like?

When we frequently feel inner conflict and confusion, turning into constant confusion and frustration, is when we need to take a step back, observe, and examine our inner world to see what’s really going on.